Reasons For Wrong Decisions And 3 Effective Ways To Deal With That

 How many times do you think you make a decision in a normal day? Ten times? Maybe a hundred times? Psychologists believe that the number of these decisions is much more than we think, something about a thousand times! But how much we have skill to making decisions? What things can have negative affect in our decision? Stay with us. In this article, we want to examine the answers to such questions.

Some of the decisions we make have an important and direct impact in our lives (such as deciding whether to go to college, get married, or have children) and some others which are less important (such as deciding what food to eat for lunch).

Some of these decisions have a positive effect on our lives (our study in university can give us good job in future) and some others do not (the food we chose for lunch was not a good choice and made problem for our health).

If we review the past and think about some of the bad decisions we have made, our mind will have challenge that why we made exactly that decision. Decisions that we can now clearly see and remember the negative bad effects. 

There are factors that lead to wrong decisions and knowing these factors will affect our way of thinking. With this new mindset, we can increase Probability of making the right decision.

In the following, we will examine the three main factors that lead to wrong decisions.

1. Mental shortcuts that can trap us

If we were to think about all the possible scenarios that would come with our decision, the number of things we could do during the day could be very small. To make quick decisions, our brains resort to a number of cognitive shortcuts known as "Discovery".

Discovery or heuristic is a problem-solving method which we learn from past experiences to get practical solutions result to find our way. These mental rules rely more on experience and allow us to judge quickly and in most cases correctly. But using these mental rules can have bad effects and lead to confused thinking and bad decisions. Now the important question that arises is how can we minimize the negative effects of these Discovery or heuristic decisions? According to the advice of experts, to do this, we must increase our awareness and knowledge of the existence of such decisions.

2. The Role of Unworked Comparisons in Bad Decision 

How do you know that to buying a tablet you paid right price? Or, for example, how can do you know the cost of buying a liter of milk was fair? Comparison is one of our main tools for making decision. The answer to these two questions also depend on to the comparison. In fact, we use comparisons of different items to evaluate them. But what will happened if our comparisons are bad? When make decision, we often make quick comparisons and come to a final decision without really thinking about the other options. If we do not want to make bad decisions, we must rely on the logic and look to other options ahead.

3. The effect of high optimism on bad decisions 

It may seems a little strange, but people have an innate optimism that can impede good and wise decision. Part of our over-optimism is rooted in the inherent belief that We think death is for the neighbor and bad things happen only for others. When a person inform us that something unpleasant has happened to someone,  We often look for mistakes that may have occurred to that person and because that happen to him. By blaming the victims of the accident, we are actually protecting ourselves from accepting the fact that we are like everyone else exposed to unpleasant events.The problem is that we are overconfident in our ability to set the stage for good things to happen.

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others?

Who do you compare yourself most with? If you do not know the answer to this question, think about the last time you searched on social media.

Ask yourself which photos made you jealous and think that your life is monotonous and boring or that you could not achieve the success you wanted in life?

History of comparing yourself to others is as old as human and they have been comparing themselves to others since they knew themselves.. In this article we want to see how we can stop comparing ourselves to others. Stay with us. 

Why Is Often Bad To Compare Yourself To Others?

"They look very happy. I bet they never fight. Why my life is not like theirs" Surely all of us, when we see photos of friends, colleagues and even people who we don't know them on social media pages, say these words to ourselves and wish we could be in their place even for a moment. 

We spend hours looking at their photos and thinking about the decisions that have brought us to our current situation. Sometimes we even think it is our fault that their lives seem so "great" and our lives is "bad".

Psychologists call this the social comparison trap. There is no doubt that the advent of social media has made this trap much bigger and more difficult to get rid of.

Those moments may be are real, but they do not indicate what is really happening in a person's life at that moment. The feeling of pressure you experience from comparing the life of others to yourself can severely disrupt your life and be emotionally, physically and emotionally destructive. 

If you stop comparing yourself to others, you will be more satisfied with your life; But how can we stop comparing ourselves to others while watching their smiling images on social media?

Here I will show you some way to stop comparing yourself to others:

-Change the external focus to the internal focus

Turning your gaze from the outside is not easy, but it is worth to try it. You need to stop comparing yourself to others, because only you can give yourself credit. It may seem trivial, but it is very effective. 

-Limit social media usage

When you constantly look outside to validate yourself and your life, you easily fall into the trap of social comparison. If you want to compare yourself less with others, limit the time you use social media. 

-Find a solid source of inspiration

It does not matter if one or two people are the source of inspiration in your life. This can provide some external guidance in your life. These people do not have to be celebrities, but they may be the source of inspiration for a yoga instructor, a good friend, a co-worker, or someone who is following in your footsteps. 

Self-esteem and inner thinking are the best way to avoid falling into the trap of comparison; But doing this is not so simple. If you want to stop comparing yourself to others, you have a difficult path ahead; But once you are aware of this, you are on the right track. 

The Impact And Role Of Gardening For Children

Gardening and growing flowers and plants is one of the beautiful pleasures of life and one of the easiest ways for children to connect with nature.

Children who doing gardening with their parents, have higher mental health and better connect with their environment when they grow.

All People in different ages can enjoy by gardening, but Gardening is a special activity for children. Gardening is an educational activity for children that has many different type of benefits for them. 

You do not have to have a garden to introduce to your children about plants and gardening. With a few pots of houseplants, you can also introduce your children to plants and gardening.

You just need let them be with you and help you with the gardening.

A child can strengthen a sense of responsibility by seeding a plant in a pot and caring for that plant which they did by their hand.

In fact, gardening affects children's senses in many ways.

In addition to a sense of responsibility, gardening help them to focus better on things.

Explain to your children that a plant comes from a seed. Explain to them what is the role of leaves in plants and explain about roots and stems and their roles in plants. 

Allow your children to plant the seeds in the soil with their own little hands. Start with easier plants such as sunflower, radish and lettuce... Join the children in this work and do not leave them alone to encourage them to continue working.

Let them work freely to show their creativity and do not limit them.

When a child sows a seed and takes care of it to grow up and sees the product of his work, it increases his patience, which affects various aspects of his life in the future.

Gardening calms both you and your baby, reduces anxiety and stress, and boosts self-confidence. 

How To Make Different Type Of Compost For Your Garden

Having a good garden with healthy plants requires care and in first you need to have good information to maintain your vegetables and trees.

One of the important issues to take care of your plants and is their nutrition.

The plant needs nutrients not only water which obtain it from fertilizers. Fertilizers can be chemical or organic, and here I am going to explain how to make organic fertilizer. 

Compost is one of the organic fertilizers made from plant and fruit residues and poultry and horse manure.

You can make this fertilizer at home and use it for your garden.

Fourteen-day compost preparation method

To do this you need a tank with a square or circle that is one meter high and one meter wide. 

Place this tank near where water is available.

The materials you need to put in this tank, such as a layer of dry or brown leaves containing carbon, you can use the dry leaves of trees, straw or paper in this layer.

Cover the bottom of the tank with it and the next layer that is placed on the first layer is green leaves and contains nitrogen, which you can combine with fruit residues and fruit peel. 

Just like making lasagna. Continue with a layer of green leaves and a layer of dry leaves to the top of the tank.

Moisten it a little with water and try to keep it moist to 50% but not saturated with water. Put the lid on the tank and stir these layers every other day or every other day.

Fold the side pieces in the middle and the middle pieces to the side and turn it in this way. 

To do this better, you can use another empty tank and transfer the compost to the empty tank and repeat the same the next day.

Remember to control the moisture of the material and add a little water to it for better decomposition. Do this for up to 14 days and after two weeks your compost will be ready for use.

There is another way to make compost, which is exactly the same as 14-day compost, except that you can use an intermediate layer of poultry or horse manure and the blood of dead animals and the remains of dead animals, which is called 18-day compost.